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Celebrate: Christmas (Eve) is here!

It’s the last Adventword, not an order. It’s also another word that leaves me wrinkling my nose.  Celebrate. It really shouldn’t be an imperative. Stress, pressure, tension, baggage–they all conspire to make Special Occasions less than celebratory.

And yet I love to celebrate. I live to celebrate. I only hate forced pep, not genuine joy.  Spontaneity and freedom are the key. Celebrating is not an event. It happens at a lot of celebrations, but correlation is not causation.  The verb is an action.

To celebrate is to magnify happiness. Celebrating amplifies delight by sharing it.  Joy to the world, and all that. I adore that kind of celebrating. It makes life sparkle in a way that doesn’t need vacuuming the way real glitter does.

The flip side of the nihilist “Life has no meaning” philosophy is that life has exactly as much meaning as we give it, so why not bring life some joyous fun? Why bother celebrating? the nihilist asks. Me, I ask, why not celebrate?

Anyway. Genuine glee resulting from any old occurrence or item or act is always worth broadcasting. Doesn’t have to be a big thing. Give me a snack, and I will celebrate it. Just ask Spouseman about the happy food dance.

(I swear I had no idea I did little chair dances when I eat until he teased me. And then I tried to stop, because attention=bad is an ingrained response, but it didn’t work. Celebratory impulses will beat all restraint, even the amazing power of self-consciousness.)

So anyway.

Celebrating at celebration times can be hard when the associations are the opposite of joyful. But it is possible. It’s worth trying and trying again. And share even the small celebrations whenever you can.  Joy has a way of being contagious in ways mere cheer can never imitate.

May your days be merry and bright, and all that. It’s a good blessing.

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Live: Adventword Dec 23

This was another toughie to slap an image on. Live!  Is it a shiny, positive-thinking imperative?  Or is it a reminder that existence is worth awareness? I live. You live. We live. Hey, we LIVE!

All the stock pictures went with door number 1. Standing atop mountains, trekking through jungle, contemplating suns on horizons, running through soft-focus wildflower meadows: they were all about manufactured YOLO moments.

I don’t know about you, but that isn’t my life. Most of my life isn’t about big, planned, designed-to-amaze events. It’s the adventure of the small.  It isn’t about “seeing the bright side.” It’s about owning every minute of whatever life happens to dish up.

Life is what happens when we’re making other plans and all that. So I live it. All of it. The travels and the travails.

If I was queen of the world and issuing imperatives,  the imperative live would be all about remembering to squeeze every drop of being out of whatever is happening right there, right then. Here’s me as Queen. “Hey, you there doing laundry. Again.  You made clean clothes! Own that victory right there. Savor it. Right on!”

Or “Hey, you  got your ass to work this morning even though you hate everything about it?  Good on you, because your co-workers would have had it harder if you’d called out. You did a right thing, even if you only did it because you need money to eat. It still counts.  Kudos.”

Yeah, sure, there’s the whole, “isn’t there more than this?” existential dilemma, and there’s the “pursue your dreams” mandate, and yes, we all should stretch for what we desire and ponder the big questions.  But the now keeps happening while we do that.

So I don’t like to let any mundane second slip by as if it doesn’t matter. In the end those seconds may be all we ever have–and even if not, there are a hell of a lot more Small Moments than Big Times.

Well, that was a downer, huh?

Oh, the pic? That’s me. At Newport Beach, I think?  A long time ago, when I was utterly, miserably, nauseously horrified by ocean surf. I couldn’t bear to swim or even wade out wearing a life jacket or do any of the exciting beach adventures my parents had planned for their three hatchlings. Parents pushed. I threw the world’s most hellacious meltdown and was banished to towel prison while my sibs adventured.

There I contentedly stared at sand grains and bits of shell until my sentence was served. Then I ran around at the ocean’s edge and caught water in my bucket and watched my toes disappear over and over in the tame, shallow wash of ebbing waves.

Very unexciting. But it was exactly what made me happy, and it’s my life.

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Animate: Adventword Dec 22

This word got me in so much trouble when I was…twelve, I think?

Background. Girls Scout camp in the wilds of central Indiana in the mid-seventies. Not a hotbed of inclusive intellectualism, let’s say, and  I was in a unit led by a counselor who took the job because her friends were doing it, not because she liked camping. Many of us made made the mistake of knowing what we were doing in front of her those two weeks. (Building fires. Avoiding poison ivy. Taking the correct trail to the lake.) We annoyed her with these and other crimes like talking about books we had read.

So when the bookworm kid who annoyed her most (me)  used the word “animated” in table conversation at supper, of course her only possible course of action was to mock me loudly and publicly — making a point to bring the whole dining hall of 70+ girls into the conversation — about putting on airs and being a stupid child who was too big for her smart-mouthed britches because everyone knew that animated means cartoons.

I don’t think I cried. I recall being furious, which usually means tears, but I don’t remember bawling.  I do remember arguing the point (I’d been describing someone whose gestures were, in fact, animated and expressive) It ended in  a tie. KP duty for me, but sympathy from my tent mates and affirmation by another counselor (albeit after the meal, in private, with a not-apology and some useful advice on how to survive the rest of the session.) I took my half a loaf.

ANYway. That’s undoubtedly NOTHING to do with what today’s word is supposed to signify (something about bringing things or people or ideas to life, I’m sure) , but that’s what animate will always bring to my mind: my first remembered experience being belittled for being stupid and wrong when I was neither.

It took me several more decades to learn that some people aren’t worth arguing with…okay, no, I still haven’t learned that. I did start amassing a huge arsenal of sneaky rhetorical weapons after that battle so that I could win future ones. That’s something I guess.

I don’t know where that takes us, but I’m way outta time.

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Abide: Advent Dec 21

What a full and many-faceted word abide is. It can mean reside, stay, accept, tolerate, wait, bear patiently, put up with…it takes a web of concepts and tucks them all inside a quiet little word that rests easy in the mouth and soft on the heart.

‘Bide with me is a line made for love poetry. Abide pleads, “Put up with me, stay with me, be with me, live with me.” This take on love appeals to me more than the traditional “Be mine,” because I reject the idea that love has anything to do with ownership.

I don’t remember the poet, but I know there is a real line that’s “Come with me and be my love, and we will all the pleasures prove.”*  I know, the ‘biding is implied there, but that’s my reading of it, and interpretation is what poetry is all about, right? Of course right. Abide gets along with togetherness and endurance. Lasting and living.

So in a way it’s a survival word too, I guess or maybe a word that tells us there’s more than one spin on the whole idea of survival. “Generations come and go, but the earth abides,” or something like that. (That’s a Bible quote, if I recall correctly.) The phrase Earth Abides is a post-apocalypse novel about how the end of the world isn’t the end…

Anyway. I’m almost out of time. Lots of thinking between words.

So basically I have a biding affection for abide. It’s a comfy word, a gentle, quiet one that insists there’s value in the warmth of home fires. More fiery, flashy passions compete for our attention night and day all our lives.  Abide? It is willing to wait for us to learn how appreciate it.

*the poem is by Christopher Marlowe: The Passionate Shepherd To His Love.  I looked it up later.

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Prune: Dec 20 AdventWord

To me pruning is one way of simplifying. It means to cut back, trim down, slice away or amputate, but it’s more than mere destruction. It’s renewal by removal.

Pruning is a skill every gardener builds. Cutting back a plant opens up space to let in light and air. It encourages new life. We shape new growth by selective removal of the old, we allow fresh chances by severing failed attempts.

It can seem cruel. The results can look odd to an eye trained only to see “natural” growth (see the top image. Pollarding is a specialized kind of pruning I only learned about this year, and it still looks terribly odd to me.) I have a hard time pruning in the garden. Cutting away living growth is especially painful. It’s taken several seasons of nursing along droopy, unhappy perennials to teach me that pruning them may be painful to do, but the result is a good thing. A needful thing. A betterment, even.

All this is true In life as well as in horticulture. I don’t have time to do major analogy stuff, but it seems pretty obvs to me. Cut out the old and useless, sever ties to the unhealthy, spread and grow into the new light and airy spaces. It can be painful, but it’s healing in the long run. All that. Yeah.

True confession. When I saw the Advent word for today my initial thought progression went like this: “Prune?  As in face like a shriveled prune? Why the hell is dried plum a word for Advent? Because of sugarplums? Are sugarplums prunes?  I’m not sure they’re even plums…hang on. Waitaminute. Oh, prune. Verb. Not noun. Right. I knew that.”

I could’ve written about dried plums for five minutes too. My sibs and I used to get dried fruit in our stockings at Christmas along with candy canes, so I’ve always had a fondness for “dried plums.”

But that would be a different post.

extra picture because I liked it. Also, peacock!

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